10 basic points of good discipline for child

10 basic points of good discipline for child guidance Children are not born knowing the rules of life.
They learn to be good men and women by first learning to be good boys and girls. Expect mistakes, tantrums, pouting, and crying. How you respond is an important part of how they learn.
1.Good discipline is not punishment Discipline and punishment are different. Punishment is supposed to make a person choose not to repeat bad behaviour. By using punishment, especially physical punishment, children learn how the powerful make rules and the weaker must go along with it, or else. They might learn to avoid being honest about mistakes or to divert the blame on to others (“it’s not my fault”). Because young children do not choose to misbehave, they can feel like failures if punished over and over.
2. Good discipline teachesPunishment teaches what is wrong, but does not help a child learn what is right. The goal of discipline is to teach. It teaches self-control and socially acceptable behaviour. You encourage good behaviour by correcting misbehaviour and praising good behaviour. Discipline is an opportunity to model respect, patience, and good problem solving. In the long run, you teach them to decide all by themselves to do the right thing.
3.Good discipline is not a power struggle“Do you want to go to bed?” “No!.” “But it’s 9 o’clock so you need to get to bed.” “YOU CAN’T MAKE ME!” You are in a power struggle. Where do you go from here? With small children, you can make them: you can pick them up and take them to bed.
4.Good discipline never involves physical violence or threats of violenceNever, ever hit a child. If you find yourself using physical discipline like spanking, you may be getting yourself into power struggles, exercising your power as the bigger and stronger person. Re-assess your overall discipline strategy and look into ways to replace spanking. For example, try time ins or time outs, but no more than one minute for each year of the child’s age (i.e., two minutes for a two-year-old)
.5.Good discipline does not involve insulting or demeaning commentsFor abusive parents, “discipline” means yelling, blaming, and putting the child down. This teaches that a child is a bad person, not a person who has exercised bad judgment or engaged in bad behaviour. Also, don’t put down one child by favouring or praising the other.
6.Good discipline does not involve anger and over-reactionsGood discipline is a planned out strategy to encourage good behaviour and discourage bad behaviour. It is consistent and fair.
7. Good discipline uses clear expectations, clear consequences, and consistent “enforcement” Good discipline:• defines clear expectations which are reasonable for the age of the child• clearly links consequences that match the age of the child • uses fair, firm, consistent follow-throughWhen someone breaks a family rule, give them a chance to do it right before you apply a consequence. Be consistent. If you enforce a rule one day, and let it slide the next, you teach the children they can sometimes get away with it, so they are likely to repeat the bad behaviour.

8. Good discipline is neither permissive nor punitiveSome parents never discipline. The permissive parent lets kids do whatever they want, so he or she never has to enforce rules. With the punitive parent, children are too scared to step out of line. Neither style is good.
9. Good discipline solves problemsUsing good discipline, you should feel the atmosphere at home getting more relaxed. Then you’ll know you are on the right track. Children learn not only what is wrong, but what is right.
10. The best discipline is the kind you never have to useUsing the above guidelines may help prevent the need for discipline in the first place. This may not work immediately, but over time it can.• be a model of good behaviour: if you want “please and thank you,” use “please and thank you”• be clear on the rules so they know what behaviour you do not want to see• praise good behaviour five times for every one time you comment on misbehaviour• when correcting misbehaviour, focus on the behaviour, not the child• when correcting misbehaviour, explain the logic behind your request or behind the rule•
keep your voice at a normal volume level and do not react out of anger, fatigue or other emotion• don’t get into a power struggle: state the “given” and give some choices• don’t have rules that are impossible to meet, or impossible for the age of your child• you are the adult, you set the rules, you enforce the rules, you are in charge• if acting out is the only way to get your attention, expect children to act outDiscipline is not possible with babies. They are too young to learn from discipline.
They must be old enough to understand the consequences of their actions.